I’m an Expert! No You’re Not, Dude, Don’t Lie!

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I believe one aspect of being a mentor is to share my story and experiences. Relay my thoughts, feelings and struggles in a way that will help others overcome their own issues. Let them know that they are not alone. I would like to share with you one of those experiences, overcoming fear and anxiety of negative responses.

I’m an Expert! No You’re Not, Dude, Don’t Lie!

Wikipedia defines an expert: “…a person with extensive knowledge or ability based on research, experience, or occupation and in a particular area of study…”

Some people may think that because they are just now starting to see my name that I am not an expert (knowledgeable) in my certain area. Just like all of you, I have spent a life time obtaining this knowledge. Along the way, I realized you cannot let people dictate to you what you are or are NOT!

Overcoming Fear and Anxiety of Negative Responses

Shortly after I was introduced to attraction marketing, I produced an article and someone left a negative comment. I was so afraid that I offended someone that I allowed this negative response to paralyze me for months. Afraid to sit at my computer and write.

But, something inside kept telling me that there was something I was suppose to do. Through my personal development training, I began to realize what that something was. Overcome my fear and share with others so they too can learn to overcome their fears. Therefore, I began to write again.

Feeling confident in my knowledge I wrote several articles and have had some very good reviews. Needless to say, the negative response monster reared its ugly head once again. I was not about to let it defeat me this time!

Promote YOU and Be Branded as an Expert!

I wrote an article entitled “Promote YOU and Be Branded as an Expert!“. The content contained three surefire ways to promote YOU:

  1. share your expert knowledge in a “niche” market,
  2. utilize your name since YOU are the product, and
  3. make your article titles as important as the body.

Being excited, I wanted to see what others thought of my article.  I began reading this one particular comment and the first line read:   “I don’t believe that branding yourself as an “Expert” is really the right term.” I froze!  Oh no, did I offend someone again by not using the “RIGHT TERM”?  I began skimming over the other comments looking for other negative words, feeding my fear.  I let my fear reply back: “Thank you all for your comments. Wow, and I got this information out of a book. Guess I still have a learning curve to deal with.”

I was giving in to my fear, allowing it to have power over me.   After I left the comment, I shut down shop for the night and went to bed.

Later that night, laying awake I began to think: Was I really going to let this fear affect me again?   NO! I am NOT!  I have learned through my journey that you have to believe in yourself, believe in what you have to say.  So what if someone thought I did not use the “RIGHT TERM”.  It was the message and what I believe in that was important.

The next morning I recanted my reply and posted the following: “Thank you all for your comments. However, I think you are stuck on the terminology…”  Wow did I feel relieved.  I stood up to what I believed in.

I went back and read the comments again.  The comments took on a whole new meaning.  This time I wasn’t looking for the negative response.  After a second glance, I realized that a majority of the comments were actually confirming my thoughts.

I Am What I Am

I AM an expert (knowledgeable about me) and no one is going to change my mind.  I have worked hard to acquire my knowledge, learning from the best. I am not saying to go out and say you are an expert. It is your mindset to believe you are an expert.

I will not let anyone’s opinion dictate what I am or am not. I have overcome my fear and anxiety of negative responses.

I would like for you to take away from this experience is the understanding that you are an expert. You have a product that is unlike any others. You know that product inside and out, an expert with extensive knowledge of that product. And the product I am referring to is YOU!  Nobody knows you better.  How can they say you are not an expert.

One place you can excel your training and appeal to others is right here on this page. You can claim your training and tools to help improve you and your marketing skills by simply entering your Name, E-mail, and Phone Number in the form to the right. You will get your FREE training sent immediately to your inbox.

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7 Responses to I’m an Expert! No You’re Not, Dude, Don’t Lie!
  1. Carolyn Elizabeth Blake
    July 26, 2010 | 9:04 pm

    Good for you Tamra for recanting. A brief negative comment from someone who crosses our path for a moment is no indicator of who we are or what we have and can achieve. No one can know the hours and days and years we have worked to acquire the skills we have, but us. The moment comes finally that we have the courage to step out and offer the benefit of our skills to others, like those before us did for us.the negative commenter was not helpful, did not provide value and was certainly not expert at mentoring.

  2. Tamra Trowbridge
    July 27, 2010 | 2:29 am

    Carolyn,

    Thank you. Well put! I know what I am and no one is going to change my mind.

    Good to hear from you.

    Tamra

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  4. kebabope Morapedi
    September 3, 2010 | 9:05 am

    Hey Tamra,
    Do you know that you have a heart of a champion?Recovering from months of fear is not a joke! We just have to appreciate that negative comments simply means “improve” not to stop us, we are the master and captain of our souls just like Carolyn is saying a negative comment is no indicator of who we are or what we have and can achieve.You rock!

    To your success,
    ~Kebabope Morapedi

  5. Tamra
    September 4, 2010 | 7:58 am

    Awww, Thanks Keba. I feel as a mentor it is good that I share my stories so others can learn from them and avoid doing the same mistakes.

    I am happy you are enjoying reading my posts. I look forward to your return visits.

    Tamra

  6. Tamra Trowbridge
    September 9, 2010 | 12:31 am

    Awww, Thx Keba. It wasn’t until I overcame my fear did things begin to open up for me.

    You really made my day!

    Tamra

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